We are no longer orphans without a spiritual Father. We who were lost have been found. Chosen and adopted as sons and daughters with all the privileges of sonship Jesus had; the intimacy of a Father/Son relationship.
“Think of it this way. If a father dies and leaves great wealth for his young children, those children are not much better off than slaves until they grow up, even though they actually own everything the father had. They have to obey their guardians until they reach whatever age their father set.”
“And that is the way it was for us before Christ came. We were slaves to the spiritual powers of this world. But when the right time came, God sent His Son, born of a woman, subject to the law. God sent Him to buy freedom for us who were slaves to the law, so that He could adopt us as His very own children. And because you Gentiles have become His children, God has sent the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, and now you can call God your dear Father. Now you are no longer a slave but God’s own child. And since you are His child, everything He has belongs to you.”
It is when we understand that we are no longer orphans in our mind and accept this truth in our heart that we are able to act like a son. We are no longer driven to accomplish this gaining of acceptance, of being worthy with our daily rituals or in how we serve others so that we can be lovable. It is because God loves us unconditionally for who we are that we have value. We can finally accept who we are and participate in the fullness of the Father/son partnership.
To accomplish this we take away the list of things to do and learn how to be. When we are in fellowship with God, the Father, we have placed God in the center of whatever we are doing at the time. The effort we strive for is to have this "God consciousness" at all times. This is just like anything else, it takes time and practice. I believe this is what Paul is referring to when he wrote of praying without ceasing. Regardless of where we are in our relationship, the intimacy of fellowship, partnering with God in all that we do is what Jesus is referring to when He instructs us to abide in Him and He will abide in us.
Just as in any relationship if we want it to grow we have to spend time with that person. God is no different. When we spend time with God in the intimacy of fellowship through the Holy Spirit, who lives in us and never leaves us, we are able to clearly hear the small still voice, the whisper of God when He speaks to us. This ability to hear happens when we are able to be still, abiding in the presence of God, wherever we are and whatever we are doing.