When admitting a wrong and asking for forgiveness, we are showing godly character. We are restoring a person’s honor and giving back the respect we have stolen.
It is a lie that says real men never apologize or say I am sorry for what I did. Real men are men of godly character who accept responsibility for their words and actions, whether we are right, wrong or even forgetful. It is true that when we are loved we do not have to say I am sorry. However, because we have love for others we are always willing and able to say, "I am sorry... ." We are not claiming to be a sorry person; we are sorry, expressing sorrow for our poor choice, whatever it was.
When coming face to face with our shortcomings we are letting God search our heart. It is through His encouragement and love for us that He helps us to see the error of our ways. This can be in the thoughts we capture, our attitude, our words to ourself and others as well as our actions that do not reflect Him. It is always from a position of we can do better, not what were we thinking... that our God molds and shapes His children.
It is because He, the Holy Spirit, is always encouraging us that we have the courage to recognize our weaknesses. It is because we are constantly affirmed as a son or daughter we become willing to change. As the pride of self is unmasked, our self-deceptions begin to be revealed to us as well. Then the truth we know in our head can make it to our heart and vise a verse. This connection between head and heart greatly affects our ability to have our actions line up with our faith, what we say we believe.
When we let Jesus look into our heart we are transformed where His gaze has penetrated through the veil of self and captured us. These are the rooms in our heart where Jesus is Lord. Areas where we have been truly broken, stripping away our primary allegiance to self, our sense of loyalty to others and the "stuff" we have held on to so tightly, instead of putting God first.
If our heart has been hardened in any area of our life it is because we have not yet allowed God to search that part of our heart with His perfect love. Regardless of the reason, when we are insistent on having our own way, certain that the other person is more in the wrong than we are, we have not yet died to self in that area of our heart. God's perfect love covers over a multitude of wrongs done to us and the many wrongs we have done to others, to God and even ourself.
Father God, please forgive us for our ignorance, the lack of knowledge with understanding that we are missing of Your ways. Please heal our hearts and help us to let go of the hurts we carry. Give us a pure heart that responds to people with Your nature and not our own.
Lord, we ask You for the courage to follow You with our whole heart and represent You with our best in every area of our life. Help us to live a life worthy of Jesus in our thought life, in our speech and in our choices. We can't do this without You.
Teach us, Lord, how to speak life into the world around us as we pursue a life in You. Thank You for Your patience and the complete love You give each of us as Your chosen and adopted child. Amen.