A mans reward for his labor done whole heartedly is his hearts delight. Just as developing our character is intentional so is learning how to live as God's son, as the chosen and adopted child of the Living God.
As we grow into manhood we have choices made for us by those that love us or have the responsibility to care for us. In the beginning of our walk as a young man we are influenced to be who we are by the effect of the choices made for us, including our response or reaction to them. Our environment and the examples given by those around us for how to live are also imprinted upon us. It is from this that we learn how the world works and that choices have consequences.
When we are reborn and grafted in to the family of God, having been recreated not rehabilitated, we have a lot to learn. We are no longer who we were and most of what we know about how life works doesn't fit with our heavenly Fathers concept of what life is about.
We now have a standard for living life that is about respect and honor, not about self-gratification. Jesus tells us that the greatest commandments in life are; to love the Lord our God with all of our heart, mind, body and soul and that we are to love our neighbor as ourself. Living life with these directives is exactly opposite of what most of us know about life.
The entire Holy Bible can be considered commentary from God on how to walk out these commandments. The story of the life of Joseph (Genesis 37-50) and the the life of King David (1 Samuel 16 through the end of 2 Samuel) are great examples for today of how an ordinary man can become more than he has been and a godly man of strength and grace as he matures in life.
They are both a good read and I encourage you to read about one of them this week. In them you will find that neither one of them lived a perfect life. What they have in common is that they became the man they were because they intentionally relied on God to lead them. Even though neither of them did it well all the time (this gives each of us hope) they continued to press in and seek God.
As men this is the secret to our true success in life. All men have to learn how to lead ourself before we are able to lead others well. How better to learn how to lead ourself in life than to let the Perfect Father teach us. An added advantage that you and I have over King David and Joseph is that we have our "best friend" the Holy Spirit living in us to guide us and direct us.
It is the joy and delight in our heart and in the heart of our Father for us that gives us the drive and strength to press on in being set apart from the world and yet not consider ourselves to be above or better than others.